How strict are your parents? (Edited)

Hey Readers! 

Since I'm a big Quora girl. Obviously I'm not a Quoran but definitely I like reading answers over there when I'm free. 

This questions have been alot of times in my feed. That's why I thought to write about this today. 

So, I'm beginning this here. I won't say whether they are stricts or not. It will be your choice. 

Firstly I'll talk about friends. 

1) I'm allowed to attend birthday parties of my friends and all. 

Many of my friend's parents didn't allowed their daughters to attend birthday parties. But in this case, I was bit relaxed. I've attended around 6-7 birthday parties of my close friends. Mostly, 3-4 were when I was in class 10. I didn't attend all. Most were from my close friends. 

2) If my parents knows them then I can be with them after 9. But I need to return home soon. 

My mom knows all my friends. That's why she doesn't mind if I stay with my friends till 9 or more. The point is, I should come home safely with her after that. Though I always came before 8. 

3) My parents knows all my school male friends.

My mom and dad knows all my school friends. Even two of my male friends, one who was my school days bestie (who had proposed me) and other my then crush had attended a party at my home. And that's the reason why I told my mom about cutie. Atleast, she won't feel bad if I say anything related to him in near future. I specified his name because he held a special space back them. I've few more friends who are not my school days friends but met/talked recently. My mom knows few but I don't specify any of their names. Although, she knows I can't date soemone until I'm damn sure and it's rarest when I'm sure about someone (she had only told this).

4) All my friends are allowed at my home irrespective of gender.

My parents never said boys are not allowed. They know they are just my friends. So they don't have problem. Even my parents had met my bestie and talked to him around so many times. My then crush, was my family friends too. So it was never a problem if any of my friends came home. My best friends along with few of my batchmates had came to home quite a few times. 

Talking about Gadgets

1) I had my personal laptop when I was in class 7. 

Not a big deal. My parents believe that every thing should be divided fairly among both of us. That's why when my brother got a laptop. I too got one. Though, later I gave that laptop to my brother. 

Thats my laptop which my brother uses now.😂 Though he is planning to buy MacBook now 😬😬😬. Parents are ready, it's him who'll decide when.😉😒

2) No one checks my Personal Phone

I have one which I got around 7-8 th of June in 2019. My parents doesn't check it. My brother does sometimes. But I don't give him until he actually needs it. 

Once my dad had asked my phone because mom said, "may be, I have a boyfriend". But my dad never checked my chats not even my contacts or any apps that are related to chats. He just opened you tube played for 10 mins and gave me back. 

My parents never intervene in my personal space atleast. The intresting fact is I give my phone to my brother only when my dad request it. Otherwise it's always NO. 

3) No one checks what is kept in my pendrive.

I've a pendrive which I carry every where. I've OTG for it. So I can connect it with my phone. Though my pendrive doesn't have anything personal still.

4) No one reads my chats or want to know my phone password.

My mom wants too know my phone password sometimes. Still my dad never asked it. And anyways, they don't care about passwords and all because if they ever ask I give them my phone. 

Although, no one read my personal chats. Not even the messages (SMS).

Everytime I share something, cutie's name pop up. Actually I don't talk to any on that WhatsApp apart from my brother. So no one questions about it. Earlier it showed his real name and still my brother never asked.

Talking about personal room.

I was alloted my personal room when I was in 9th. My parents never intervene in my personal space. I can lock it anytime. They won't mind. But yup, I've to open it when they knock. I've my personal diary and list of personal stuffs kept in my rooms. Not love letters but definitely some hand made cards from my close friends. Some school pictures and all. And there is nothing called personal in it. 

Even I love when they come and clean my room. My dad especially make sure to clean things that are visible. Even my mother keeps all my dresses, ornaments, jewellery, make up in my room. She simply says, "it's your, so you keep it". 

I had just cleaned the room that time.🥳🤷🤭

Same goes with pocket money. I've collected around 7000 rupees from last march to till now.

Even they won't mind if I call or talk to someone in my room. I do so. Sometimes my mother ask, when she sees me chatting or talking to someone Infront of her. And I don't avoid any. Because I know if I do then she'll think that something is fishy. 

Talking about Dresses.

I can wear all types of dresses. Western and traditional both. Though, earlier I hardly had traditional dresses. But I brought around so many Kurtis this time. So I've both traditional and western dresses in my cupboard. 

My dad have problem only when it looks tight or expose alot. Even I don't feel comfortable wearing exposed dresses Infront of parents. Though I've around 4-5. I don't like cold shoulder much. But off shoulder dresses are pretty good. I'll like cold shoulder when I'll lose some weight. 

Career Option

My parents had allowed me to take Arts. But my dad took Biology in 11th and 12th. And I liked biology since time immemorial that's why took one. Let's see where I'll go next . 

In this case, my brother is damn supportive. He openly says that he'll support me in every field. But I need to have passion for it.

Right now, I'm focused about medicines. 

My parents want to see me in white apron. And atleast I did worked for it. So let's see what happens next. 

Marriage

My mom knows I'll do love marriage. She knows it's 50-50 for arrange. So often she says me, "you can have love marriage. But find the person from the same caste"😂. And it's next to impossible. 🤣🤣  But see this out if fun. 

Though, if I ever have a boyfriend. And things actually work out. Then may be it'll be difficult but at the end they will be convinced if the person is good. 

Some ransome context.

My parents doesn't have problem if I pick calls or chats Infront of them. They just ask who is it but not more than that. But I mostly avoid it because it's not a good manner. 

My parents allow me to go out with cousins and friends. But I need to ask them before. With dida, I can travel anytime. Same with my cousin. I rarely went out with my friends. It was mostly to their homes for their projects. 

I don't get calls from any of my male friends. My best friend who had called me during October was last. After that, it was all my cousin's and jiju. So nothing much to say. 

My parents talk to my friends when I attend calls with them. And they are almost chilled about it. Like my mom talks to Akka because she calls me regularly. If I'm in hostel then I won't say with whom I talk. Neither they ask. 

They support me for studies and all. I get scolding for many things. But mostly, they are worthy. 

My last seen is on in both of my WhatsApp account. Still they don't care about it. Sometimes, it's shows 1am in the night.

They don't care what chatting apps I've in my mobile. My brother is bit casual about all the apps. And he doesn't stop me from using any. 

My parents believes one thing. They controlled me till class 9th-10th mostly. And then they started giving me personal space. According to them, I'm capable of making my decisions. And I can decide what's right or wrong for me. That's why they don't interfere in small matters related to friends, study, life or anything now. 

Even since childhood, my parents had never decided anything. They always asked me to decide for myself. Even I had school choice when I was just 6-7 years old. I choosed Nazareth because it had more swans and rabbits than in my brother's school. 😂 It's real story. 

What I decide I get. But most of times, I give my parents the opportunity to decide because I'm a poor decision maker. 

So this is the end. Mostly, they are strict when they can sense something fishy. My brother has more freedom as compared to me in few cases. But still at the end they let me decide everything. So I rarely complaints. Though, I taunts alot to them. Kidding type taunts when I'm irritated. And they take it funnily. 

Like today I was angry on dad. And didn't talked to him. Later, he started talking to him and I started ranting. And he was quietly listening and then said, " with whom you are angry- brother or me?" 😂😂 He knew I was angry on my brother and that's why saying him, "you have your precious son na, why do you need me"🤣🤣.

I don't know why but my parents believe I should never cry for something. If I want something, then I've to get it. Even I always got more as compared to my brother in few things. Though late in few cases. 

Now, it's your choice ;)

Thanks ;) 

Edited: 

I think this year is gonna be "edited year" for me. Anyways, since I was answering this question that's why I thought to write about it. It's related to parents that's why I'm writing this out here. 

3 months back, in November we all family members had went to Tanishq for my SIL jewellery. 

There I found a Platinum ring with single diamond in it. The thing is the single diamond ring cost more as compared to multiple/group ones.

So the one I liked costed around 75k. My mom had promised me that time, if I clear my exams then she'll buy the same for me. Even dad said the same. 

Since I'm going to hostel in few days. So today while packaging my mom said, "remember that ring that you wanted to buy that time?". I said, "yes, are you doing to buy me now?". She told me, "I'll give you one. Just few months are left for exams, you prepare well and clear it. I'll buy the same or even more costlier than it." 

I won't talk about the electronic gadgets and dresses I'm gonna get if I clear it. My brother will too buy so many gadgets now. He isn't interested in rings and dresses too.😒🤭

Meanwhile Akka and me, when I said the same to her, "why parents gives things only after accomplishing some work?". 

*Crying in corner* 😬

Thank you ;)