A Sudden Realisation

Recently I talked to my school days best friend. She was a kind of materialistic person. When we were in schools, we used to do group projects together. She used to consider money over everything. I never saw her feel things. 

From last 1½years, I was in no contact with her. I remember when it was the last day of school, I had hugged her. And she said, "yrr, I don't like anyone to hug me. I just hate it around. Not to me but to everyone after me." I was her best friend so it was not valid for me as obvious. 

Two days back, I talked to her on call. For the first hour, we said absolutely nothing. There was no topic to be honest. There was just random things striking between us. After one hour, we finally went to few topics. And by the time the call ended, we shared almost all stories of the past. 

Let me say one thing. She was a very good student in school days and now too. But her parents never treated her well. They used to beat her, abuse her and do all those stuffs that are not expected by parents atleast. I had listened to many during lunch break by her. But after years, things didn't changed. 

She too went out to study. And she realised that emotions are much more important than money. She said me on call that, "Ankita remember when we were in class 7 and we had done few mistake in our presentation. And I was angry and that's why I had shouted on you". I said, "yes, I remember". She told me further, "I remember you had said that nobody has talked to you in that way. Your parents never shouted and scolded you Infront of someone. And that's why you didn't talked to me for days." 

I firmly replied, "I don't remember this, how come you know the exact thing?" After this, she said me politely, "I didn't knew why you were angry that time because my parents never talked with respect to me. Even today also, I'm sure if someone talks to you badly, you won't talk to them. But I've not changed. My parents still treat me like shit. They think that money is everything. They think that I've done nothing great in life. I'm just problem to them. I hear abusing languages every day. And that's why I know why you stood for your self respect that time." 

Honestly, I was shocked to hear this line from her. The very person who never thought like this. Never knew how badly her words could hurt someone. Is finally on a track to learn what effects happen when you are hurted by someone. 

It was shocking to know that her parents being a doctor still doesn't know how to treat their children. Even they do the same to their son. And now the situation is so worsen that their son always lie and keep using abusing languages for them. 

I don't want to comment about their personal life. But I did because of the morals they are teaching to their children. What would a chidlren learn from them? What they'll understand even? 

She told me finally then, "Ankita now if someone says me whom to choose in life. Then I would say that I'll have the one who supports me. Who be with me emotionally. With whom I can share up things. Because in the end, we all need a person with whom we can say what our heart beats like." 

She changed so much. I never thought in my dreams that she'll be the one saying all these even. It was such a shocking thing to listen up these. 

She further said me, "yrr, I never hugged someone properly. I never treated anyone properly. I took people for granted. But now I realise that, the hug is important. That crying with your emotional people is important. That sorry just to get back your loved ones is important. And everything that bring you close to your very own self is important."

What a fantastic line it was. She is realising the value of people around us. She is finally accepting that at the end of the day no matter how much we all fight, make things worse but we need someone to stand beside us and hold us when we get shattered. 

There was so many things in the conversation. I told her about Tom. Said what happened and where we headed at the end. She told me how sad and worsen her life is. How she wants to run aways from her parents. Why she wants to file complaint against them. And like these alot. 

I remember before ending the call. I had said her,  "you need mental peace, I guess". To which she had replied, "I really don't remember what peace is now. I'm so much devastated by these situations that I really don't know how to be happy." 

You know the proverb, "I'm alone not lonely". 

This is what valid for us. I'm alone but happy. I don't have many people around. I don't talk to any on call except few minutes if someone calls (Akka sleeps with her parents now, so she doesn't call me at night. So I'm mostly alone everytime if someone calls me or messages me). I don't message even (do but only few times that too when they put some birthday status😅 but majorly get messages from everyone first). But still I'm happy. I'm happy with everything aroud. 

She has no one around. She doesn't know what peace is all about. There is nothing that could call her mind. She is running across everything to get love, care that we all wish. She doesn't have anyone beside her when she is alone. When she needs emotional support then no one stands by her. But I've people who stands with me when I need them. I've that peace which I was searching during May / June. And that's why I know the importance of peace of mind. 

I really think people realise things when they don't have anyone around. When they need someone to talk to them, to listen them, that's when they realise their value. They start understanding that love, care is also as important as money or any materialistic thing is. They understand that career, hobbies and everything which we require is important but at the end we too require love and care also. May be she is finding it in the outside world because she doesn't get the one in her home. She just needs a best friend right now. 

That 2-3 hours conversation with her completely changed my thinking about her. I always knew her as my best friend but never as someone who understands feelings. But finally she changed. She started valuing love above things. 

Here in the whole article, love doesn't mean some boyfriend/girlfriend one but instead parental love, friends love. 

Thank you ;)